How do you wish to be seen in the world? Are you stealth, graceful, and appreciative or straight up toxic? Identifying our emotional triggers enables us to foster emotional intelligence and reset our patterned knee-jerk reactions.
Emotional ripples are a part of life. We all experience and, hopefully, learn and grow from moments of challenge. How we conduct ourselves in the heat of the now, set’s the future tone of how our story plays out.
What’s your trigger when faced with the discomfort of negative emotions such as fear, anger, jealousy or poverty consciousness? Is it anxiety, a racing heartbeat, rising physical heat, the desire to retreat and run for the hills? Do you even feel it coming on or are you numb to it…realizing afterwards the remnants of your scorched village?
Strong emotions can be gifts if we treat them as such. They create opportunities for learning curves and emotional advancement. To assist in the enlivenment of healthy pattern interruptions, we first need to begin to face the emerging emotions while choosing to exist within the eye of the uneasy storm. Emotions, like anger, create distance and the key is to spotlight the emotion with presence–not repressing it (enhancing it’s power) and not sending it outward (deflection). When the emotion is expressed verbally, the words take on the form of the emotion–solidifying the negative pattern cycle. Witnessing and feeling these emotional signals–in real time–can reset our thoughts, create new associative memories and open us up to new awakenings.
One of the most treasured teachers of our time, Pema Chödrön, recommends settling into that particular emotion using the power of breath awareness. This not only keeps you in the present moment, but it guides you away from the perpetuated repression or expression of that emotional uprising. When you face the emotion head on using the breath, you immerse into the moment as it’s happening and present yourself with an opportunity to nourish the emerging formation of a conscious reset.
The experience that surfaces for many meditators with this practice is the “shape shifting” of emotions: sadness becomes happiness or anger is unveiled as loneliness. All good…revealing a deeper understanding of our inner world so we can activate the positive and diminish the negative.
- A meditation practice will beautifully nourish healthy pattern interruptions and open you up to witnessing.
- Begin to get comfortable with identifying your emotions–the good, bad, and everything in between and p-a-u-s-e. All of your emotions are valid, a part of you, and deserve your silent observance and attention.
- Do your best to witness the triggers that are linked to that emotional or physical “tell”.
Money stress–fear, anxiety, or poverty consciousness
Anger–heat in your stomach, neck or cheeks
Happiness–physical warmth, opening of the heart or feelings of gratitude and appreciation
- Breathe with and in to the identified emotion (don’t breathe it away), stay with it, and invite it into your heart center.
- If it dissipates…that’s cool…simply let it go.
- Invite in empathy–putting your self in the other person’s shoes. If you are alone, think of the millions of other people who are experiencing that same emotion–with you now and again in the future. Their story may be different, but the emotions are the same. Acknowledge this as a universal experience.
- Take a moment to honor your efforts with gratitude and positive reflection.
- Turn the page…move forward.
VATAS–use the breathe to ground you in the present – if you drift away, use the breathe and tether back.
PITTAS–use the breathe to cool the fire – place your hands over ears and allow the breathe to bring in the sound of the ocean.
KAPHAS–use the breathe to detach and let go – inhale happiness, exhale any weight or sadness.
Be well. Live free. Love hard. Rock on!